I tried to explain Christine Miserandino’s spoon theory to some friends the other day but it didn’t go so well.

My explanation went something like this:

“It’s about spoons…

…well not really spoons, but yeah, spoons…

…so you have these spoons…

…but you use them up”

“Use them?”


“Like eating your cereal?” (or not, in the case of one of their young boys)

“No, you can use them in any way at all, like washing up or cooking tea

“Yeah, ok”

“Or having a shower


By that point I think I’d lost them completely, so here it is in full


Hopefully it makes a bit more sense now.

A little insight into life with ongoing pain and various other symptoms that significantly limit what you’re able to do on a day-to-day basis.

Having constant migraines for months and months (and years and years) has had a massive impact on what I’m able to do day-to-day.

The migraines themselves are totally debilitating, but the accumulated effect has also worn me down over time.

The migraines have completely wiped me out. They’ve robbed every bit of me, and all I’m left with is a few spoons. Thanks migraines, once again, for ruining my life!

The spoon theory is really useful for helping myself and others understand a bit more about the adjustments I’ve had to make and why.

I’m so sorry to all the people this affects – friends, family, work colleagues, etc – who lose out because of the migraines, who get the dregs of me, or none of me at all, instead of the person I once was, the person I’m fairly sure I still am somewhere underneath all of this crappiness.

If any of this resonates with you or someone you know, why not check out the #spoonieselfie challenge at Brainstorm’s most excellent blog – I’ll be posting my picture shortly!


About migrainefreeme

I'm a practitioner psychologist. I'm on a journey of faith and grace. I have complex, severe and continuous migraine. I blog about holding on to hope through life's ups and downs.
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1 Response to Spoons

  1. Brain Storm says:

    Thanks for spreading the word!! It’s so lovely to see that I’m not the only one with puffy eyes and ice packs tied to my head… I think I might make it an ongoing project. Wishing you plenty of spoons 🙂

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